What is the best gift you could give this Valentine’s Day?
Annah Stretton shares her tips
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How important is Valentine’s Day really in NZ?
Surely we don't need another day that presents as a rampant opportunity for retailers to sell us stuff.
I, for one, believe the several celebratory days we have already certainly put enough pressure on our nearest and dearest to mark the day with a gift.
Not that I advocate taking away Mothers nor Father’s Day, because when we look beyond the commercial speak, we really do have days that celebrate incredibly important people in our lives.
I, for one, believe the several celebratory days we have already certainly put enough pressure on our nearest and dearest to mark the day with a gift.
Not that I advocate taking away Mothers nor Father’s Day, because when we look beyond the commercial speak, we really do have days that celebrate incredibly important people in our lives.
I suppose it just comes down to what we do, how we celebrate this day and all that it stands for.
Me, I'm a big advocate of TIME … time is the most important thing that you can give anyone. Ask any person ailing in a rest home what they would like most from their nearest and dearest and I'm sure that you'd get this very answer.
Given that I am now well entrenched into my second marriage, oddly enough Waitangi Day this year heralded what would have been 31 years of my first marriage should we have remained together, I am however in the 15th year of my second relationship. So how do I feel about Valentine’s Day and how important is it to the fabric of my relationship (any relationship)?
Think back to the heady days of the start of any courtship, reflect on the soulmate statements that we all make, the eternity messages that we scratch out on cards, the flowers that we send and yes… the time we elect to spend just hanging out together.
Falling in love is one of the most powerful experiences of our lives yet most of us are at a loss to explain what it means or how it feels. We have even less idea when it will happen and when it does happen we often let it slip away all too easily.
Sure, as time marches on our lives get busy (but weren't we busy at the start of this relationship too????), we trust in the permanency of what we believe we have and we think we have done enough to ensure it will always be there.
But have we?
Why are divorce rates so high, families so disconnected and social problems in this country so prolific such as family violence, broken homes, kids without values? All products of once heady unions between two people that have fragmented as a result of placing an initial soulmate on the back burner while everything else takes priority, perhaps?
Would you do this to your child, to your business, to your friends, when very little investment in them could possibly mean big future challenges for you? No, yet so many of us neglect our relationships.
So yes, a day to invest in each other is paramount. Not the cards, nor the flowers or any other material gift that supposedly signifies the moment... IT’S TIME… give each other time. Remember what it was that brought you together in the first place, embrace and celebrate who you have now both become, make Valentine’s Day one of your most important days, a celebration of two people that have grown within a relationship to trust and respect each other. This day isn't about or for the young and newly in love only, it's about being loved and loving another. And there is not a person alive that doesn't thrive when they are LOVED!
Given that I am now well entrenched into my second marriage, oddly enough Waitangi Day this year heralded what would have been 31 years of my first marriage should we have remained together, I am however in the 15th year of my second relationship. So how do I feel about Valentine’s Day and how important is it to the fabric of my relationship (any relationship)?
Think back to the heady days of the start of any courtship, reflect on the soulmate statements that we all make, the eternity messages that we scratch out on cards, the flowers that we send and yes… the time we elect to spend just hanging out together.
Falling in love is one of the most powerful experiences of our lives yet most of us are at a loss to explain what it means or how it feels. We have even less idea when it will happen and when it does happen we often let it slip away all too easily.
Sure, as time marches on our lives get busy (but weren't we busy at the start of this relationship too????), we trust in the permanency of what we believe we have and we think we have done enough to ensure it will always be there.
But have we?
Why are divorce rates so high, families so disconnected and social problems in this country so prolific such as family violence, broken homes, kids without values? All products of once heady unions between two people that have fragmented as a result of placing an initial soulmate on the back burner while everything else takes priority, perhaps?
Would you do this to your child, to your business, to your friends, when very little investment in them could possibly mean big future challenges for you? No, yet so many of us neglect our relationships.
So yes, a day to invest in each other is paramount. Not the cards, nor the flowers or any other material gift that supposedly signifies the moment... IT’S TIME… give each other time. Remember what it was that brought you together in the first place, embrace and celebrate who you have now both become, make Valentine’s Day one of your most important days, a celebration of two people that have grown within a relationship to trust and respect each other. This day isn't about or for the young and newly in love only, it's about being loved and loving another. And there is not a person alive that doesn't thrive when they are LOVED!
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